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Rev Fac Med UNAM 2023; 66 (4)

Mate Choice: Implications and Complications

Souza MM

Language: Spanish
References: 74
Page: 37-55
PDF size: 543.32 Kb.


ABSTRACT

Human individualistic loneliness impels us to live as a couple and achieve complementarity between man and woman, affection, and reciprocity. The science journalism of this article reviews the choice of partner, their satisfaction and complications, and preventive instruction of circumstances that cause rupture. The failure from the election ignores the mechanisms between reason and sexual instinct. The problem of love is not to be loved but to develop such a capacity, for it is extinguished by maladjustment and monotony. The voting/ elected act and its simultaneous reasons are described: Conscious (homogeneity/heterogeneity of the encounter; emulation of the animal model; type, dynamic link and social networks; Sociodemographic aspects; sexual sharing and immediate/future expectations). Unconscious (electoral problems, dyadic interaction, and parental background; defense mechanisms, exchange of dissociations; idealization; negative reciprocity, power struggle, projective identification, search for appreciation for the other; narcissism, false self, mechanisms of procrastination/evasion of responsibility, insecurity, intrusion, and collusion). A healthy couple, understands/attends to the creation and maintenance of the “we”, eliminates the power struggle and produces permanent conciliation. Tolerant agreement and understanding are indispensable for a satisfying, stable, and lasting emotional relationship.


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